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6 Blankets on lawn, each with different treats
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Hand out group tags (tape them onto girls)
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Introduce Activity:
·
Review Socially Savvy Soiree
Good manners and
social skills + genuine love and concern = graciousness, kindness & charity
o Common
courtesy starts with acknowledging those around you pleasantly.
§ Please &
Thank you
§ Excuse me
§ I’m sorry
§ Greeting/acknowledging others
§ Handshaking
§ Smile
§ Be on time
§ Cell phone
manners
§ Holding door
open
§ Introducing people
to each other
§ Remembering
name
o Are these
skills important?
o Difference
between fake/forced and genuine good manners? (love)
·
Seeing VALUE in EVERYONE is the key!!
o Who do we
sometimes fail to value (person pumping our gas, the store clerk, the person
who just cut in front of us, our younger brother, the person who is socially
awkward or who doesn’t dress like us)
o How do we
learn to value others?
§ “See” them!
§ Know their
names
o GAME
§ Close eyes,
look down.
§ When
signaled lock eye contact with someone else and say their FULL name. add Full
name and assign compliment to each girl (bright, sweet, smart, athletic,
artistic, poised, kind, compassionate)
§ Person who
is last is out of the game.
·
Switch Groups (by color)
o Read over Activity #1
as
a group
§ Practice in
your group. When signaled (Nina’s whistle) start up a conversation with someone
else in the group, practice different “openers”.
·
Switch Groups (by number)
o Go over Activity #2 as a group
§ Read over
“Conversation rules” as group and discuss each one, why it’s important, etc.
§ Divide into
smaller groups and use conversation starters.
·
Focus on “Talk slowly” and “Hold more eye contact”
·
Focus on “ Noticing details” and “Unique compliments”
·
Switch within group?
·
Switch Groups (by shape)
o Go over
Socially Savvy Goals again (one girl reads out loud to group)
§ Also go over
BEING words
·
Body Language
·
Eye Contact
·
Include others
·
Notice Others
·
Be GENUINE!!
§ Activity,
Game (talk about genuinely caring about others):
·
Put one girl in middle of group, have each girl say
something nice about her
·
Conclude by bearing testimony of how special each girl
is. How much her Heavenly Father loves her and how each of us is expected to
treat each other like special kindred daughters of God.
This was our way of making sure that each of our 3 groups had new people in them. Only works if you have about 36 girls:
Each girl was given a shape. The first group was divided by color, second by number, third by shape.
ACTIVITY
#1
Discuss the rules below. Share
your opinion. Is the rule important to you? Why or why not? Would you add
anything to this list?
Ten
Rules of Common Courtesy
Show respect for others.
When appropriate, say please, thank you and excuse me. After you
receive a gift, make sure you write a thank you note or follow up with a phone
call, email or text message. Do not use the word “shut up” – it is offensive!
Always apologize when you do something wrong.
When you physically or emotionally hurt someone apologize even if
it’s an accident. If you make a mistake, try to make amends whenever possible.
When someone is having a conversation, do not interrupt.
If you must interrupt a conversation, make sure you are polite and
say, “Excuse me, I’m sorry to interrupt but…”
When you change your plans, let others know.
Honor your word. If you commit to plans, make sure you show up. If
something comes up (which it always does), make sure you contact others
immediately.
Respect the needs of others in public.
Do not talk obnoxiously or loudly in public. Be aware of your
surroundings and the people in the vicinity; use your cell phone in a private
place. Always be respectful towards the people that serve you.
Never embarrass another person.
It is NOT polite to embarrass someone. In fact, it’s rude and mean
and only serves to portray you as a bully. If you don’t have anything nice to
say, then don’t say anything.
When refusing an invitation, be kind and honest.
We cannot attend every function so sometimes you will need to
politely decline an invitation. Remember it’s okay to decline an invitation but
it’s wrong to lie to someone.
Respect your elders.
Always be polite to adults and treat them with respect. Go out of
your way to help elderly people, e.g., hold the door open. Consider having a
conversation with them – that may put a smile on their face.
Use good table manners.
I’m not implying you should put a napkin on your lap or keep your
elbows off the table every time you eat. You should however, chew with your mouth
shut and never speak with food in your mouth – that’s gross! Do not use your
fingers unless, of course, it’s finger food. Use your napkin not your shirt and
don’t lick your fingers.
Respect other people’s property.
Treat other people’s possessions like they were your own. If you
lose or ruin something that belongs to someone else, fix or replace it.
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