· 6 Blankets on lawn, each with different treats
· Hand out group tags (tape them onto girls)
· Introduce Activity:
· Review Socially Savvy Soiree
Good manners and social skills + genuine love and concern = graciousness, kindness & charity
o Common courtesy starts with acknowledging those around you pleasantly.
§ Please & Thank you
§ Excuse me
§ I’m sorry
§ Greeting/acknowledging others
§ Be on time
§ Cell phone manners
§ Holding door open
§ Introducing people to each other
§ Remembering name
o Are these skills important?
o Difference between fake/forced and genuine good manners? (love)
· Seeing VALUE in EVERYONE is the key!!
o Who do we sometimes fail to value (person pumping our gas, the store clerk, the person who just cut in front of us, our younger brother, the person who is socially awkward or who doesn’t dress like us)
o How do we learn to value others?
§ “See” them!
§ Know their names
§ Close eyes, look down.
§ When signaled lock eye contact with someone else and say their FULL name. add Full name and assign compliment to each girl (bright, sweet, smart, athletic, artistic, poised, kind, compassionate)
§ Person who is last is out of the game.
· Switch Groups (by color)
o Read over Activity #1 as a group
§ Practice in your group. When signaled (Nina’s whistle) start up a conversation with someone else in the group, practice different “openers”.
· Switch Groups (by number)
o Go over Activity #2 as a group
§ Read over “Conversation rules” as group and discuss each one, why it’s important, etc.
§ Divide into smaller groups and use conversation starters.
· Focus on “Talk slowly” and “Hold more eye contact”
· Focus on “ Noticing details” and “Unique compliments”
· Switch within group?
· Switch Groups (by shape)
o Go over Socially Savvy Goals again (one girl reads out loud to group)
§ Also go over BEING words
· Body Language
· Eye Contact
· Include others
· Notice Others
· Be GENUINE!!
§ Activity, Game (talk about genuinely caring about others):
· Put one girl in middle of group, have each girl say something nice about her
· Conclude by bearing testimony of how special each girl is. How much her Heavenly Father loves her and how each of us is expected to treat each other like special kindred daughters of God.
This was our way of making sure that each of our 3 groups had new people in them. Only works if you have about 36 girls:
Each girl was given a shape. The first group was divided by color, second by number, third by shape.
Discuss the rules below. Share your opinion. Is the rule important to you? Why or why not? Would you add anything to this list?
Ten Rules of Common Courtesy
Show respect for others.
When appropriate, say please, thank you and excuse me. After you receive a gift, make sure you write a thank you note or follow up with a phone call, email or text message. Do not use the word “shut up” – it is offensive!
Always apologize when you do something wrong.
When you physically or emotionally hurt someone apologize even if it’s an accident. If you make a mistake, try to make amends whenever possible.
When someone is having a conversation, do not interrupt.
If you must interrupt a conversation, make sure you are polite and say, “Excuse me, I’m sorry to interrupt but…”
When you change your plans, let others know.
Honor your word. If you commit to plans, make sure you show up. If something comes up (which it always does), make sure you contact others immediately.
Respect the needs of others in public.
Do not talk obnoxiously or loudly in public. Be aware of your surroundings and the people in the vicinity; use your cell phone in a private place. Always be respectful towards the people that serve you.
Never embarrass another person.
It is NOT polite to embarrass someone. In fact, it’s rude and mean and only serves to portray you as a bully. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything.
When refusing an invitation, be kind and honest.
We cannot attend every function so sometimes you will need to politely decline an invitation. Remember it’s okay to decline an invitation but it’s wrong to lie to someone.
Respect your elders.
Always be polite to adults and treat them with respect. Go out of your way to help elderly people, e.g., hold the door open. Consider having a conversation with them – that may put a smile on their face.
Use good table manners.
I’m not implying you should put a napkin on your lap or keep your elbows off the table every time you eat. You should however, chew with your mouth shut and never speak with food in your mouth – that’s gross! Do not use your fingers unless, of course, it’s finger food. Use your napkin not your shirt and don’t lick your fingers.
Respect other people’s property.
Treat other people’s possessions like they were your own. If you lose or ruin something that belongs to someone else, fix or replace it.